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What We Give to Ourselves: Easy Self-Care Practices

Updated: Sep 27, 2020

Please welcome Guest Blogger, Kristen Richardson who is writing about out of the box self-care practices.


We hear so much about the importance of self-care, especially during this very difficult time period through which we are all living. I'm aware that it is easier said than done, or you may be unsure about what works best for you. You may feel that the idea of self-care does not help, or make you feel any different once you attempt to do a suggested activity that was listed on a self-care list posted. 

Are you taking care of yourself?

Or, are we too busy trying to process all of the external, and internal, factors in everyday lives? Truth is, we are no good at serving others and showing up in the world if we do not take care of ourselves first. Our mental health is not sufficient when we do not take the best care of ourselves. 

Self-care does not only include maintaining our mental health. It also includes physical and emotional aspects of our existence. These are all major aspects of who we are as a whole and they should be considered when paying attention to how we care for ourselves.

Often times when the topic of self-care is discussed, there is usually a long list of suggestions of what people should do and should not do. I'm here to get you to look at the idea of it a little differently. Self-care is about doing something that caters to your own needs. It is doing something that you know you love. It is about taking a mental and physical break, even if it's just simply taking a nap.

Self-care is about doing something that will make you feel better It is doing something that will make you smile or laugh. It is about pouring into your own cup. Fill your own cup with love, reassurance, positivity, affection, and so much more. It is doing something that you genuinely enjoy that maybe you have not been able to do for a while. 

If you have a hobby, make time to do that hobby. If you enjoy exercising, incorporate it in your schedule. Get an extra 10 minutes of sleep, or take a nap when it is needed. If your self-care is nothing absolutely nothing, then do absolutely nothing!

Self-care is an act of loving yourself.

Self-love is just as equivalent to the importance of self-care. Self-love is one of the purest forms of love and is one of the first steps in learning to create your own happiness.

Putting yourself first is an act of self-love, as well as self-care. Saying “No” when you do not want to do something and prevent overbooking your schedule is putting yourself first. Choosing to clear your schedule in order to have “me time” is putting yourself first. 

Mindfulness and self-awareness are also relevant when focusing in on your self-care. Mindfulness is a way of opening doors to and accessing our emotional, spiritual, and physical sense of self. Becoming more aware of ourselves ties with mindfulness allows us to be more in touch with ourselves. One common way to practice mindfulness is through meditation. 

I had to learn what worked best for me by paying more attention to things that genuinely make me happy and made me feel good while I was doing so. For example, I love nature. I enjoy going for walks and just spending time in the outdoors. 

Recently, I adopted the concept of grounding yourself, which is allowing yourself to connect to your energy with the earth and allowing yourself to be present and centered. Sometimes I go out to a nearby park and lay or sit in the grass and the surface while I meditate and embrace my surroundings. This experience is even more fulfilling because I am planting myself in a space that brings me peace, contentment, and comfort. You have to find your space of peace! Grounding can also be used as a way to practice mindfulness.

A lot of people may feel overwhelmed with the idea that the act of self-care has to be something big and extravagant. The idea that self-care may be something that is expensive in order for it to be effective is not the case. 

This alone could lead to the notion that they do not have the time to really do anything for themselves, which could cause even more stress and anxiety. It is extremely important to make time for yourself. You owe it to yourself. Truth is, it is okay if it's just 10 minutes a day. Those 10 minutes will make a significant difference, believe me!

What we give to ourselves, how we care for ourselves, the way we treat ourselves all influence the level of self-care and self-love we have for our own well-being. Be mindful that if one thing does not work for you, it is okay to try something else. You know yourself better than anyone. Don’t focus so much on what other people want for you or expect from you, but what you want and expect of yourself. Treat yourself how you would want someone else to treat you and care for you. Do for yourself the same way you do for others.

Love on yourself a little extra starting today. You deserve it! It is time to believe that you deserve everything because you owe that to yourself. 

Keywords: self, grounding, mindfulness 


More about Ms. Kristen Richardson:

Kristen Richardson is a blogger, a writer, and an aspiring counselor. She loves using her experiences and her story to inspire and encourage others to not be afraid to embrace growth and become the better version of themselves.

IG handle: @theblogofgrowth__

Blog Site: The Blog of Growth

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